For many people who have never played question games with their romantically attached others, the idea of a “questions for couples” might may seem like a strange thing.
To some people, it might even seem like a redundant thing to do.
Why do people need to ask questions when they can just talk to their partners at any time. But sometimes it is not that simple.
Recent studies have shown that in recent times, with the constantly evolving types of technological communication, people have been slowly growing more distant in terms of face to face talk. People are talking with each other less because there are simply too many distractions around them.
These same studies show that when people take the time to communicate, they do so when it is convenient for them, not when they are actually interested in sharing a dialogue. Communication is the key to creating a connection, and it can be just as important as actions in a long term relationships.
Before any questions can be considered for use, it is a good idea to practice some of these tips to ensure that you and your partner can begin communicating with each other.
Always try to practice active listening. Remember that when you are having a dialogue, the attention should be equal between the two people involved, and that though one may speak more than the other at certain times during the conversation, one should never dominate the other.
The only way that any progress can be made in communication skills is if you and your partner give each other your undivided attention. This means that you must put away other means of communication, such as text messages, and sit and talk with each other.
It is important to not be judgmental during the conversation. One of the biggest ways to hinder a relationship is to interrupt conversations with judgments and evaluations. Save your internal process for after the conversation or, if it is relevant, create conversation points based on polite judgments that you and your partner can discuss together.
Asking the right questions in a proper tone of voice is also an important aspect of conversations. Sometimes, people do not know how to control their tones of voice, which can sometimes involuntarily project distrust or hostility onto their partners when they speak.
For most people, the most acceptable and easy to listen to tone of voice is the mid range tone, where you are not too gruff or too meek. This vocal range works best in a conversation because the neutrality encourages open communication, where both parties can feel as though they are speaking candidly and are not being judged for what they are saying.
Finally, it is crucial to always be considerate when you are in a conversation. Do not alienate your partner by interrupting them during the conversation. Instead, foster a healthy speaking environment by listening to them courteously, answering when it is appropriate, and ask questions when it is relevant. By keeping in mind these simple tips, you can help improve communication with your significant other.